are you debating on whether to get a divorce?

may i share a thought?

i take it that you are having some struggles with your marriage.

May i share some thoughts from an ex-wife's perspective?

if for any reason your spouse is dependent on you, please do not divorce her/him unless that is your spouse's request.
please just go off and be separated,if necessary, living your own life but making sure you take care of her/him still, at least financially (ideally you would still strive to get ALL their needs met while you went elsewhere to get your own needs met but if that is too hard then at very least making sure their dreams,at least, are fiancially protected from the world so you dont leave them in a situation like i am in, having to go out and "start over" again without any safety net.

i just want you to make sure you knew that not only is it possible but its also perfectly acceptable for you to go out and try to get your needs met as long as you are be considerate that you are treating them how you would like to be treated and are trying to get their 'needs' met.

if you do still feel one day you want to get a divorce, then there is a way to avoid the worst nightmare ever.
one)if you have been married five years or more already, please allow your spouce to have the social security benefits that come from 10 yrs of marriage. you just do your own thing for remainder of years slowly prepping her for the transition - think slow and easy like taffy ;) slowly slowly slowly prepare her mentally and emotionally and financially.

(i am happy to share my ideas with you of how i wish my ex had done it and how i witnessed some of the best most positive divorces do it).

IF you have been married more then ten years, making it a slow subtle transition is even more important bc your lives have been ever so entwined and to avoid the nightmare it needs to be taken apart delicately and slowly and peacefully.

if you are ever in the houston galleria area and would like to get more imput into these ideas more, let me know .

for those who are out of town, i can also help you brainstorm over the phone. 

coming soon, a free guide to an easy divorce and/or an easy marriage...

learn from my experience and also find out secrets from divorces that helped their relationships evolve into something even bettter ;)

in the meantime, you may contact me here or through my facebook page bodylistening world or my twitter page bodymindworld.

remember to breathe breathe breathe and find gratitude for at least ten things in your life right now!

hugs,.

Krin of KrinEtEagle