our family's dealbreakers

What are your relationship dealbreakers? 

Ooooh I love this question bc over the years I've been learning about myself and come to realize I actually do have some dealbreakers

Dealbreaker 1)

Impatience, judgements, demands

- when people act impatiently with myself or with any members of my family, that tends to deter me from encouraging continued connection. My mother and I are extra slow and we will push your patience levels to its max.

- we have a rebellious nature and our instinct is to rebel when people make bossy or demanding or coercive requests

Although short term we are willing to put up with a lot, we don't tend to encourage folka if they are constantly in impatience or non-accepting or non-allowing with any of us.

Dealbreaker 2 - any requests for me to spend time with them without my family around. If that is a requirement, keep searching. Even if I am willing, the idea of that being requested I find offensive. I do not enjoy people's company if I am not being allowed to share it with my family. You might be enjoying having me to yourself , but I won't enjoy it.

If you want me to enjoy your company, my family has to be allowed to be around.

Maybe after a few YEARS of your being a close friend of the family, I might become more comfortable to be around you without them around, but I haven't found anyone that I've enjoyed more then my family yet ..and I ma not likely to bx the very request leaves me not comfortable around people - so please , don't even ask.

If you want me to feel comfortable with you, have it where the family loves you so much that I just becoming so accustomed to you that I don't think twice about your being around.

Dealbreaker 3)

anyone who requires sex with me

Dealbreaker 4)

not allowing us to have a digital back up memory so if you afraid of anything about you being digitally remembered, we would not be a good match

Dealbreaker 5)

anybody shouting verbally abusively or physically abusive statements. Any guilt trips about our being who and how we are. Any berating of us for the parts about us that are inconvenient to you. Any requirements for us to be different or better ...if that is what you need,.then please please find someone else please.

Thank you